Friday Five: The Truth About Keeping Friendships + Major Mom Ick

Plus, a life changing theory.

Welcome to Friday Five - we made it through another wild week! Love writing these and love having you here.

✨ The Blueberry Muffin Theory

On a particularly challenging day juggling it all (meaning work was blowing up, Lola was wanting every ounce of my attention, I had a home to-do list stressing me the eff out), I learned a huge lesson. I was sitting there feeling frustrated at all of it, and more accurately, LETTING it make me feel frustrated. I realized that I had a choice and instead of feeling like I was failing at it all, I dropped everything and said to Lola: let’s make blueberry muffins! It was the wholesome shift all of me needed and that slowing down and connection with Lola was such a perfect reset. It let me take a break, fill my cup, and get back to what I needed to do with a better mindset. I always feel better when I know I’ve given Lola a nice experience doing something she likes to do. From now on, it will be called The Blueberry Muffin Theory and I highly recommend trying it (spoiler: doesn’t have to be blueberry muffins with your child, but anything that gets you to step out of a mindset/situation you’re not happy with!)

👀 My least fave part of this mom gig

I love love love being a mom. It’s true what they say: it’s literally the most fulfilling thing in life. And can we get a buuuuut… but, maybe one of the worst parts is that your child is constantly asking you to DUN DUN DUN: play with them! This has to be a mom thing, but I will snuggle, provide, cook, nurture, chat and emotional labour all day long, but ask me to build a tower with you, and I’m kinda OUT. Is that awful?! I will do it and actually try to enjoy the connecting time when I do, but getting me there? OMG it’s like rolling a boulder up a hill! Dad is very good at this, and is her little playmate. I prefer to be in the kitchen whipping up our delish dinner while he does that.

✌🏾 On adult friendships

I mean, this could be a huge post on its own, so I’m going to attack this topic on a deeper level in an upcoming post but I think it’s something we are all navigating and as an adult, and a mom on top of it (which has it’s own challenges) there are so many elements to making, keeping, enjoying and even ending friendships. I’m a girl with a LOT of acquaintances, quite a few friends, but many less CLOSE friends by design. Friendships are something I’ve always held dear, but I’m also extremely protective of who I give my energy to, especially getting older - the time spend is hard to come by in this season of life, and I have very little of myself to give. If I’m a friend to someone, it is a lot of output for me, because I try to be a GOOD friend. I saw this from my mom, how she poured into the cup of so many and tried to be there for her friends (and really often was taken advantage of for it). It’s going to be interesting what impressions Lola gets of the way I move within friendships. I can be naive in friendships, but also have zero issue ending one if it’s toxic or just not for me. The struggle of the one-sided friendship, friends who you’re always supporting but it’s never returned, ones you simply grow out of it or make you feel drained is all very real! Friend breakups are a huge topic to dissect and I do have experience with this that you might take something from, so let’s continue this topic with a post, and if you have thoughts then drop a comments and I’ll consider how I can include. I’ll leave you with one nugget: if you’re working on friendships that just don’t feel right, spend that energy forging new friendships.

🍵 New Starbucks obsession

I have heard of the Medicine Ball Tea from Starbucks which is like an off-menu secret item of sorts that was created by customers, but this is kiiinda probably the same, and is an in-app easy to order option. I looooved it. Been feeling a bit under the weather this week, and this tea was so perfect. It’s a Honey Citrus Mint Tea - a Jade Citrus tea bag, honey (I think?!) and lemonade. Reminds me of a delish Neo Citran. A new fave for me!

👋🏽 What’s new around here

I like doing this in Friday Five and might make this a regular little ‘segment’. This is a round up about things that are new around here and little things that are making our world a little better.

Fairmont Duvet - we’ve had this new feather duvet on our bed for a few weeks now and we love it. If you’re in the market, she’s fluffy! P.S: I would wait to see what kind of Black Friday Sale they have.
Green Pan Set - I am a huge Green Pan fan have had a set for a couple years. Just upgraded to this beauty set from Costco and giving it a 10/10. Great price.

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